Manifesting Our Dream Relationship With The Sagittarius New Moon Influence

sagiby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
on October 30th we have experienced a beautiful Scorpio New Moon, which opened the cycle that is closing with this upcoming Sagittarius New Moon on November 29th. The archer, as the sign is often called, is an adventurous fire sign with an impeccable eye for every goal we are setting. With this New Moon comes the challenging impact of the Sun and the Moon squaring Neptune, and Venus in square with Uranus; which are impacts that can create instability and lack of clarity of the mind.
But the influence we will feel the strongest at this Moon event will be the energy field of the Asteroid Juno, which brings forward our love relationships. The good, the bad and the ugly is in the spotlight of the center stage during this Sagittarius New Moon. Long settled relationships can suddenly find their end, just as much as new encounter can emerge in total authenticity. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ~Howard Thurman

So take the chance for something very special in your life, if that is what your heart and soul desire. Use the energy field to bring into the world, your most personal expression of true love in relationship. The Ascended Master Confucius, the master of humaneness said: “If there is righteousness in the heart, there will be beauty in the character. If there is beauty in the character, there will be harmony in the home. If there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nations.
When there is order in the nations, there will be peace in the world.” For me personally, that sounds like a good base for our new relationship paradigm in action.

Here are some tips how to use your inner clarity to attract what is authentic for you:
1. Make sure you know your own needs:

A wonderful way to attract the person you need as partner, is to be aware of who and how you truly are in love-relationships. Ask yourself what you really desire from a partner. What it is you want to share with this other person in your life!
If you are not quite sure, a first step could be a clarifying meditation. Take some time to write down memories of former relationships. Memories of situations you don’t want to repeat ever again. Memories of human traits and expressions, you are not comfortable living with. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions and irritations relate, without letting them overwhelm you. Than put the list away for 3 days.

2. Look at your needs from a rational, not emotional point:
When 3 days have past, pick up your list and look, plainly from a rational point of view, at the people you chose for this past relationships. Try to be as honest as possible to yourself, even if it hurts! Look at their character, their lifestyle, their dreams, the relationship they have with their core family. Is there a pattern emerging?
The thing is, we can easily feel chemistry with people who are not good for us, and often we tend to do so. If you get lost in feelings of lust, power or other charismatic attraction, you can easily end up in a toxic relationship. So in future ask yourself if the person you are interested in, has what it takes to truly be a good relationship partner for you.23. Learn to meet your own needs:
Allow your partner to be “the most wonderful”, who is able to meet all your needs and – never depend on the other for self-care and emotional balance. It is simple not your partners job to be there for you all the time, it is yours!!
Taking self-responsibility for our authentic needs, leads to self-empowerment, better self-worth and self-respect, and that leads to more harmonic relationships. As result you will also feel more confident to pick a partner who is right for you!

4. Be aware of your boundaries and hold these space for yourself:
Being honest to ourselves about our boundaries and limitations is absolute essential for a undisturbed energy flow in all human relationships. Every minute you spend in company, you teach people how to treat you. You are consistently sending out information to others about how you want to be treated. Knowing that, you can imagine that inner clarity about your personal “rights and wrongs” is an excellent way to attract a fitting relationship partner.

5. Know how to enjoy yourself alone:
For many people it is a desire to be in a love-relationship, to share experiences together and create new dreams. It can be hard and painful for people to be alone, after all as human beings we are naturally built to be love and bond with others.
Problem is, the “fear of being alone” – is the most common reason people stay in dysfunctional relationships. So do things alone, hang out with yourself and learn to truly enjoy your own company.

6. Be who you are looking for:
We live in a universe that works by the law of attraction!! What we desire in our world, we have to become first! Easy as that! How could you possible go out there and ask the divine forces for an honest, authentic and loyal partner, when you are an unauthentic lair, who usually betrays there partner within the first week!??
Instead bit by bit, you have to take on the list of abilities you are looking for in others.
To choose healthy partner and create better relationships, we must have integrity and keep our promises. We need to be authentic in word, deed and action. Be available! Be Present! Make time for each other and you will see, that love will flow!11Dear Ones, I hope you are fully motivated now, to manifest your true soul partner under the influence of this magical Sagittarius New Moon. I hope you feel worthy to call to your side, a person you want to share the Golden Age of Aquarius with. Do it from the clarity of your souls burning desire and the passion of your heart, and you can’t fail.
Blessings & Loving Relationships!!!
Edith

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Native American Wisdom For The Collective Awakening Process

aby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
over the last few weeks we have been invited to take a deep look at the meaning of our sexual relationships in the past, and the changes we are facing to create the new relationship paradigm. At the same time the collective awakening energies have together with the higher amount of pineal gland awakenings, brought the chance to create a deeper sensory relationship with the elements. Now it is time to make ourselves familiar with some guidelines and rules of Native American wisdom, that can lead the human collective into integrating the new born abilities.

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We have been invited to nourish and protect our childlike innocence, to be curious about life and be in the heart, and this are the qualities that are bringing forward our new ability to live aligned with this divine guidelines for the Golden Age of Humanity, that we are manifesting right now!! Finally the first pioneers on this wonderful planet are truly ready to go beyond race, gender, age, religion, tradition, language and patriotism, and create the communities of the future we collectively desire!! The first soul tribes are forming, THE FUTURE HAS BEGONE…

We are the Ones We Have Been Waiting For
You have been telling the people,
That is the eleventh hour.
Now, you must go and tell the people,
That This is the hour;

And there are things to be considered.
Where are you living? What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in the right relationship?eWhere is your water?
Know your garden…
It is time to speak the truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.

There is a river flowing now very fast,
It is so great and swift.
That there are those who will be afraid,
They will try to hold onto the shore.

They will feel they are being pulled apart,
And they will suffer greatly.
Understand that the river knows its divine destination.

The elders say we must let go of the shore.
Push off into the middle of the river,
Keep our eyes open and our heads above water.
And I say: see who is in there with you,
Hold fast to them and celebrate!

At this time in history,
We are to take nothing personally.
Least of all, ourselves!
For the moment we do,
Our spiritual growth and journey comes to an end.

The time of the Lone Wolf is over! Gather ourselves!
Banish the word “struggle” from your attitude and vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done,
In a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are all about to go on a sacred journey,
We are the ones we have been waiting for!
Speaker of the Wolf – Fox and Coyote Elder of the Hopi NationbThis is how the Native American Code of Ethics states it:

Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul.

Pray that they will find guidance.
Search for yourself, by yourself.
Do not allow others to make your path for you.
It is your road, and yours alone.

Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best bed
and treat them with respect and honor.

Do not take what is not yours whether from a person,
a community, the wilderness or from a culture.
It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.Respect all things that are placed upon this earth,
whether it be people or plant.
Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes, and words.

Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them.
Allow each person the right to personal expression.
Never speak of others in a bad way.
The negative energy that you put out into the universe,
will multiply when it returns to you.dAll persons make mistakes.
And all mistakes can be forgiven.
Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit.
Practice optimism.

Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us.
They are part of your worldly family. Whispers
Children are the seeds of our future.
Plant love in their hearts.
Water them with wisdom and life’s lessons.
When they are grown, give them space to grow.

Avoid hurting the hearts of others.
The poison of your pain will return to you.
Be truthful at all times.
Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced.
Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self.
All need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Work out the body to strengthen the mind.
Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
Make conscious decisions as to who you will be
and how you will react.

Be responsible for your own actions.
Respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Do not touch the personal property of others,
especially sacred and religious objects.
This is forbidden.fBe true to yourself first.
You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot
nurture and help yourself first.
Respect others religious beliefs.
Do not force your belief on others.

Share your good fortune with others.
Participate in giving.

Dear Ones, I hope you feel interested and motivated now to study, explore and integrate the awareness of our chances and responsibilities, for manifesting the Native American Code of Ethic in everyday life. Lets be strong all together, hold hands and trust that we truly are the ones we have been waiting for. The ones who will bring the Golden Age of Aquarius. Always remember you are enough and you deserve to make all your deepest dreams come true!!
Light an Love ;-)!

Edith

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How To Attract A Relationship Partner For The Golden Age – Thru Inner Clarity

bjl;by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
as we all can feel, we are in the middle of shifting the collective paradigm in our human sexuality. Over the last few month I talked about the profound inner transformation so many of us can already feel. I shared information on Polyamory, on a Shamanic approach of Tantra, the fact how deeply confused so many of us feel about the missus of sexual energy in everyday life and what to be aware of to identify a spiritual sexual predator. Taking in account all this information and evaluating it with where we are standing in our life, creates the clarity it takes to attract by SIMPLY BEING, the right partner/s for our Golden Age manifestations.

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Here some tips how to prepare yourself for making  a healthy choice next time:
1. Make sure you know your own needs:

The best way to attract the person you need as partner, is to be aware of who and how you truly are in love-relationships. Ask yourself what you really desire from a partner. What it is you want to share with this other person in your life!
If you are not quite sure, a first step could be a clarifying meditation. Take some time to write down memories of former relationships. Memories of situations you don’t want to repeat ever again. Memories of human traits and expressions, you are not comfortable living with. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions and irritations relate, without letting them overwhelm you. Than put the list away for 3 days.53c2. Look at your needs from a rational, not emotional point:
When 3 days have past, pick up your list and look from a rational point of view at the people you chose for this past relationships. Try to be as honest as possible to yourself, even if it hurts! Look at their character, their lifestyle, their dreams, the relationship they have with their core family. Is there a pattern emerging?
The thing is, we can easily feel chemistry with people who are not good for us, and often we tend to do so. If you get lost in feelings of lust, power or other charismatic attraction, you can easily end up in a toxic relationship. So in future ask yourself if the person you are interested in, has what it takes to truly be a good relationship partner for you.

3. Learn to meet your own needs:
Allow your partner to be “the most wonderful”, who is able to meet all your needs and – never depend on the other for self-care and emotional balance. It is simple not your partners job to be there for you all the time, it is yours!! If you choose personal responsibility in the areas of inner peace, emotional balance, your career, debts, taking care of your health etc.. , you will experience a new breeze of relaxation in your relationships.
Do so, and you will also feel more confident to pick a partner who is right for you! Taking self-responsibility for our authentic needs, leads to self-empowerment, better self-worth and self-respect, and that leads to more harmonic relationships.

4. Be aware of your boundaries and hold these space for yourself:
Being honest to ourselves about our boundaries and limitations is absolute essential for a undisturbed energy flow in all human relationships. Every minute you spend in company, you teach people how to treat you. You are consistently sending out information to others, about how you want to be treated. What is within your boundaries and what is a deal-breaker for you.
You communicate to others your core values about things like honesty, respect, reliability, sharing, what you need as personal space, your alone time, or how much physical affection and romance you need. Knowing that, you can imagine that inner clarity about your personal “rights and wrongs” is an excellent way to attract a fitting relationship partner.asa5. Know how to enjoy yourself alone:
For most people it is simple wonderful to be able to hang out with other human beings, share experiences together and create new dreams. It can be hard and painful for people, to be alone, as human beings are naturally built to be in love and bonded with another.
Problem is, the “fear of being alone” – is the most common reason people stay in dysfunctional relationships. So do things alone, hang out with yourself and learn to truly enjoy your own company. Know, that before you can have a successful and fulfilling relationship with another, you have to develop a solid relationship with yourself.

6. Be who you are looking for:
We live in a universe that works by the law of attraction!! What we desire in our world, we have to become first! Easy as that! How could you possible go out there and ask the divine forces for an honest, authentic and loyal partner, when you are an unauthentic lair, who usually betrays there partner within the week!??
Instead bit by bit, you have to become the list of what you are looking for in others.
To choose healthy partner and create better relationships, we must have integrity and keep our promises. We need to be authentic in word, deed and action. Be truly present with your partner! Be available! Make time for each other and you will see, the love will flow!

Dear Ones, I hope you are fully motivated now, to manifest your true soul partner. A person you can share the Golden Age of Aquarius with. Do it from the clarity of your souls guidance and the passion of your heart, and you can’t fail, if this is what you truly desire to experience in this world!!
Blessings & Loving Relationships!!!
Edith

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The Collective Awakening Process & The Native American Code of Ethics

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by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
Tonight, just 4days before the Cancer Full Moon, we experience the night of the Solstice. In the North it is Winter Solstice and in the South it is Summer Solstice. During tonight’s transition, the Earth will align directly with the Galactic Center. Powerful waves of Light Codes bring higher frequencies of divine balance and harmony. This energies will direct the course of our Planet’s evolution and all of her inhabitants, for the months to come. The Solstice is the most powerful and perfect time, to consciously align ourselves with the intentions we have for our soul work, during the year that lies ahead of us.
Last week we talked about the collective cleansing of the first chakra, that has taken place for the human race. This energetic clearing allows us to sense on profound levels, how we need to create our collective future as one race on planet earth. And this is where the Native American Code of Ethics comes into play. First thing worth knowing is, that every indigenous race existing on the planet right now, is holding a particular vibration of the divine blueprint, in order to show humanity the possibility for a healthy world. The Native American race has taken on the responsibility, to represent the wisdom and vibration of the divine/hermetic laws, in translation for behavior rules for the collective human race.

The Seven Hermetic Principles are as follows:
1. The Principle of Mentalism.
2. The Principle of Correspondence.
3. The Principle of Vibration.
4. The Principle of Polarity.
5. The Principle of Rhythm.
6. The Principle of Cause and Effect.
7. The Principle of Gender.the-seven-hermetic-principles-for-manifestingThe ways how Native American traditions and customs have taken care of a respectful treatment of every inhabitant of mother earth, during life and death, represent an appropriate behavior for all human beings. The behavior we have to adapt to, in order to create the Golden Age of Aquarius. In order to live in healthy and strong tribes, where everyone is equal to the other and brings their work force into the co-creation, for the good of all beings involved. A Brotherhood of Men.

The wisdom the Native American life style is barring for us, that comes from translating the hermetic principles on an emotional level, are as following:
1. Equality of all Existence / Brotherhood of Men
2. Acceptance of all powers of spirit and mater
3. Awareness and Respect for all manifested existence
4. Piece between all tribes and beings
5. Justice and Honor in maintaining the human rights
6. Authenticity and Honesty in thought, word and action
7. Maintain inner strength, in order to intensify the power, and than use it for the good of all beings.

28This is how the Native American Code of Ethics states it:
Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul.

Pray that they will find guidance.
Search for yourself, by yourself.
Do not allow others to make your path for you.
It is your road, and yours alone.

Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best bed
and treat them with respect and honor.

Do not take what is not yours whether from a person,
a community, the wilderness or from a culture.
It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.womeRespect all things that are placed upon this earth,
whether it be people or plant.
Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes, and words.

Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them.
Allow each person the right to personal expression.
Never speak of others in a bad way.
The negative energy that you put out into the universe,
will multiply when it returns to you.

All persons make mistakes.
And all mistakes can be forgiven.
Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit.
Practice optimism.

Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us.
They are part of your worldly family. Whispers
Children are the seeds of our future.
Plant love in their hearts.
Water them with wisdom and life’s lessons.
When they are grown, give them space to grow.morethanAvoid hurting the hearts of others.
The poison of your pain will return to you.
Be truthful at all times.
Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced.
Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self.
All need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Work out the body to strengthen the mind.
Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
Make conscious decisions as to who you will be
and how you will react.

Be responsible for your own actions.
Respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Do not touch the personal property of others,
especially sacred and religious objects.
This is forbidden.Native-American-baby-girlBe true to yourself first.
You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot
nurture and help yourself first.
Respect others religious beliefs.
Do not force your belief on others.

Share your good fortune with others.
Participate in giving.

I hope this little inside into our divinely desired behavior, will allow you to see where we are collectively off the line!! That it allows you to see yourself in the mirror of the divine laws, and have the courage to change where you need to align yourself! May the contact to the divine guidance of your higher-self and supportive angels be with you, when you choose to grow and move on, during this loving Winter/Summer Solstice transit!
Love and Blessings!!!

Edith

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Clarity Attracts!! How To Choose The Right Relationship Partner

indexby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
finding a person to truly co-create a healthy relationship with, is not always easy. Many people do not put enough effort energy or patience into their partnership, to really deeply engage with somebody. At the same time it is natural for humans to desire relations. Nerveless not all of them are good for us, and it is on us to learn how to choose wisely!
In order to
long-term be inspiring and up-lifting for another, couples have to experience each other as equals, show mutual respect for each others needs, and understanding for differentiating personality traits.
Often when people realize that they are not in a satisfying relationship, they look for someone to blame or make efforts to change their partner. A more truthful way is to acknowledge, the relationship is dysfunctional toxic and has to end.
Here some tips how to prepare yourself to make a better choice next time!!

1. Make sure you know your own needs:

The best way to attract the person you need as partner, is to be aware of who and how you truly are in love-relationships. Ask yourself what you really desire from a partner. What it is you want to share with this other person in your life!
If you are not quite sure, a first step could be a clarifying meditation. Take some time to write down memories of former relationships. Memories of situations you don’t want to repeat ever again. Memories of human traits and expressions, you are not comfortable living with. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions and irritations relate, without letting them overwhelm you. Than put the list away for 3 days.

2. Look at your needs from a rational, not emotional point:

When 3 days have past, pick up your list and look from a rational point of few at the people you chose for this past relationships. Try to be as honest as possible to yourself, even if it hurts! Look at their character, their lifestyle, their dreams, the relationship they have with their core family. Is there a pattern emerging?
The thing is, we can easily feel chemistry with people who are not good for us, and often we tend to do so. If you get lost in feelings of lust, power or other charismatic attraction, you can easily end up in a toxic relationship.
So in future ask yourself if the person you are interested in, has what it takes to truly be a good relationship partner for you.

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3. Learn to meet your own needs:

Allow your partner to be “the most wonderful”, who is able to meet all your needs and – never depend on the other for self-care and emotional balance. It is simple not your partners job to be there for you all the time, it is yours!! If you choose personal responsibility in the areas of inner peace, emotional balance, your career, debts, taking care of your health etc.. , you will experience a new breeze of relaxation in your relationships.
Do so, and you will also feel more confident to pick a partner who is right for you! Taking self-responsibility for our authentic needs, leads to self-empowerment, better self-worth and self-respect, and that leads to more harmonic relationships.

4. Be aware of your boundaries and hold these space for yourself:

Being honest to ourselves about our boundaries and limitations is absolute essential for a undisturbed energy flow in all human relationships. Every minute you spend in company, you teach people how to treat you. You are consistently sending out information to others, about how you want to be treated. What is within your boundaries and what is a deal-breaker for you.
You communicate to others your core values about things like honesty, respect, reliability, sharing, what you need as personal space, your alone time, or how much physical affection and romance you need. Knowing that, you can imagine that inner clarity about your personal “rights and wrongs” is an excellent way to attract a fitting relationship partner.

alle seiten gewesen!5. Know how to enjoy yourself alone:

For most people it is simple wonderful to be able to hang out with other human beings, share experiences together and create new dreams. It can be hard and painful for people, to be alone, as human beings are naturally built to be in love and bonded with another.
Problem is, the “fear of being alone” – is the most common reason people stay in dysfunctional relationships. So do things alone, hang out with yourself and learn to truly enjoy your own company. Know, that before you can have a successful and fulfilling relationship with another, you have to develop a solid relationship with yourself.

6. Be who you are looking for:

We live in a universe that works by the law of attraction!! What we desire in our world, we have to become first! Easy as that! How could you possible go out there and ask the divine forces for an honest, authentic and loyal partner, when you are an unauthentic lair, who usually betrays there partner within the week!??
Instead bit by bit, you have to become the list of what you are looking for in others.
To choose healthy partner and create better relationships, we must have integrity and keep our promises. We need to be authentic in word, deed and action.
Be truly present with your partner! Be available! Make time for each other and you will see, the love will flow!

Hope you found one or the other inspiration in my words and feel entitled and empowered to go out there, and just try it again!! Wish you lasting love, understanding and open sharing space for your future relations!
Love and Blessings!
Edith

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Learn to be “Masters of Love”

kindnessDear Friends,
the other day I was send this article, which I absolutely fell in love with. I do not know the source of the piece and therefore have to apologize to the author -as I can not post the reference and give credit where it belongs!! Never less the work is to beautiful not to be shared!!
I am familiar with the studies John Gottman started in the 70th and therefore found it interesting to see the authors approach. Personally I believe that we are growing up as spiritual beings and, that this includes taking full responsibility for our feelings. I think that everybody has the responsibility to heal the pain of the inner child, the pain body or lower self, how ever you want to call it, to become a productive part of a oneness society. And I think that kindness and presence with the other, are crucial for every relationship, if you are aiming for a long-term engagement.
Very interested to hear what you are thinking!!!
Enjoy the read! Love and Kindness!
Edith

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According to science, lasting relationships come down to – kindness and generosity.
Every year in June, the most popular wedding month of all, thousands of couples say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love. Feelings that will carry them forward to their final days of life on planet earth. Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. The statistics state, that of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages.
In the 1970s, social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action. This happened as there response to a crisis, triggered by a constantly ingresing divorce rate. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the ended marriages, psychologists decided to determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship are. Is each unhappy family unhappy in its own or did the miserable marriages share something in common? Is there a  toxic similarity?

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John Gottman began gathering his most critical findings in 1986, when he set up “The Love Lab” with his colleague Robert Levenson at the University of Washington. Gottman and Levenson brought newlyweds into the lab and watched them interact with each other. With a team of researchers, they hooked the couples up to electrodes and asked the couples to speak about their relationship, like how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and a positive memory they had. As they spoke, the electrodes measured the subjects’ blood flow, heart rates, and how much they sweat they produced. Then the researchers sent the couples home and followed up with them six years later to see if they were still together.
From the data they gathered, Gottman separated the couples into two major groups: the masters and the disasters. The masters were still happily together after six years. The disasters had either broken up or were chronically unhappy in their marriages. When the researchers analyzed the data they gathered on the couples, they saw clear differences between the masters and disasters. The disasters looked calm during the interviews, but their physiology, measured by the electrodes, told a different story. Their heart rates were quick, their sweat glands were active, and their blood flow was fast. Following thousands of couples longitudinally, Gottman found that the more physiologically active the couples were in the lab, the quicker their relationships deteriorated over time.

But what does physiology have to do with anything? The problem was that the disasters showed all the signs of arousal—of being in fight-or-flight mode—in their relationships. Having a conversation sitting next to their spouse was, to their bodies, like facing off with a saber-toothed tiger. Even when they were talking about pleasant or mundane facets of their relationships, they were prepared to attack and be attacked. This sent their heart rates soaring and made them more aggressive toward each other. For example, each member of a couple could be talking about how their days had gone, and a highly aroused husband might say to his wife, “Why don’t you start talking about your day. It won’t take you very long.”
The masters, by contrast, showed low physiological arousal. They felt calm and connected together, which translated into warm and affectionate behavior, even when they fought. It’s not that the masters had, by default, a better physiological make-up than the disasters; it’s that masters had created a climate of trust and intimacy that made both of them more emotionally and thus physically comfortable.

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Gottman wanted to know more about how the masters created that culture of love and intimacy, and how the disasters squashed it. In a follow-up study in 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus to look like a beautiful bed and breakfast retreat. He invited 130 newlywed couples to spend the day at this retreat and watched them as they did what couples normally do on vacation: cook, clean, listen to music, eat, chat, and hang out. And Gottman made a critical discovery in this study—one that gets at the heart of why some relationships thrive while others languish.
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t—those who turned away—would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

5.acts-without-thinking-kindness-picture-quotesBy observing these types of interactions, Gottman can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not—will be broken up, together and unhappy, or together and happy several years later. Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship. Do they bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility?
“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in an interview, “which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.” Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart. “It’s not just scanning environment,” chimed in Julie Gottman. “It’s scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right or scanning him for what he’s doing wrong and criticizing versus respecting him and expressing appreciation.”
Contempt, they have found, is the number one factor that tears couples apart. People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give their partner the cold shoulder—deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally—damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. And people who treat their partners with contempt and criticize them not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill their partner’s ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships.
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

 

kibnThere are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.
The hardest time to practice kindness is, of course, during a fight—but this is also the most important time to be kind. Letting contempt and aggression spiral out of control during a conflict can inflict irrevocable damage on a relationship.
“Kindness doesn’t mean that we don’t express our anger,” Julie Gottman explained, “but the kindness informs how we choose to express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner. Or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry, and that’s the kinder path.” John Gottman elaborated on those spears: “Disasters will say things differently in a fight. Disasters will say ‘You’re late. What’s wrong with you? You’re just like your mom.’ Masters will say ‘I feel bad for picking on you about your lateness, and I know it’s not your fault, but it’s really annoying that you’re late again.’”
“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.” In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

 

loving-kindnessFor the hundreds of thousands of couples getting married this month—and for the millions of couples currently together, married or not—the lesson from the research is clear: If you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often. Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. In the 2006 study, Gable and her colleagues followed up with the couples two months later to see if they were still together. The psychologists found that the only difference between the couples who were together and those who broke up was active constructive responding. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. In an earlier study, Gable found that active constructive responding was also associated with higher relationship quality and more intimacy between partners.
There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness. As the normal stresses of a life together pile up—with children, career, friend, in-laws, and other distractions crowding out the time for romance and intimacy—couples may put less effort into their relationship and let the petty grievances they hold against one another tear them apart. In most marriages, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together. But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

 

An Native American Code of Ethics

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Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul.
Pray that they will find guidance.

Search for yourself, by yourself.
Do not allow others to make your path for you.
It is your road, and yours alone.
Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best bed
and treat them with respect and honor.

invocationDo not take what is not yours whether from
a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture.
It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

Respect all things that are placed upon this earth
whether it be people or plant.

Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes, and words.
Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them.
Allow each person the right to personal expression.

Never speak of others in a bad way.
The negative energy that you put out into the universe
will multiply when it returns to you.

All persons make mistakes.
And all mistakes can be forgiven.

Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit.
Practice optimism.
Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us.
They are part of your worldly family.

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Children are the seeds of our future.
Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons.
When they are grown, give them space to grow.

Avoid hurting the hearts of others.
The poison of your pain will return to you.

Be truthful at all times.
Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced.
Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self
all need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Work out the body to strengthen the mind.
Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

Make conscious decisions as to who you will be
and how you will react.
Be responsible for your own actions.

Respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Do not touch the personal property of others
especially sacred and religious objects.
This is forbidden.

1578650-bigthumbnail1Be true to yourself first.
You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot
nurture and help yourself first.

Respect others religious beliefs.
Do not force your belief on others.
Share your good fortune with others.
Participate in giving

Watching Porn is Draining Your Vital Energy

Dear Friends,
Oh how interesting… I have been working with a client just a week ago and this was one of the most important themes we talked about… Sexuality, its perversion, the lack on intimacy and courage for deep, inner connection…. Hope we all will learn soon!

Big hug and blessings Edith

Coming into this world isn’t exactly a joy ride, but it is up to us to make it Fun while we are here. In this search for happiness we come across a lot of different ways to get there, through attaining altered states of consciousness and momentary escapes by using drugs and other mind altering substances or by giving into ones sexual urges and carnal desires. All of these may seem to bring some sort of peace and happiness, it is short lived though. Overuse of any of these drains us of their vital energies which are responsible to build a strong immune system and a healthy, sound working mind-body connection. Studies have shown that there is a definite similarity between deep meditative states and orgasms which can also be compared to some of the altered states produced through the use of powerful plant based ‘Entheogens‘. Being able to harness this creative energy some know as ‘Kundalini‘ enables us to be in better control and deepens our understanding of the self in relation to the external world.

Unless the Root chakra is cleansed and its blockages removed, its corresponding center in the brain will always pull our consciousness back to sexual satisfaction. We can live the same life as we do live today or we can consciously choose to make it much better. Acknowledging this dissipation of our vital energy brings back into focus certain crucial areas of our lives which we might have previously avoided confronting or simply ignored due to lack of awareness. The sexual act is sacred and our ideals today have been corrupted to an extent where sexuality has taken many perverse forms taking us further away from the truth. The only way we can find meaning in all the madness is by turning within and withdrawing our awareness from the seductions of the sensory world, instead allowing this life force to rise up into our brain and open new dimensions previously unexplored. We always have the power to re-look and re-examine our values and belief system while progressing further on a spiritual path.

I came across this eye opening TedX video of Ran Gravieli speaking about why he stopped watching porn

[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU]Even getting sexually involved with someone who you don’t know so well can result in unconsciously absorbing some of each others energies and can make one feel drained off their vital energy. Being in a dysfunctional relationship or having multiple sexual partners, one night stands etc … can result in contamination of ones Auric field allowing negative energies to slip in and take advantage of ones lowered frequency.

In ancient times, as suggested by texts such as the Kamasutra, the sexual act of union between the male and female was more about enjoying the journey than reaching the destination, which is to say the focus was on continuing the sexual act for a longer duration while delaying the orgasm, for as long as possible. Sex isn’t necessarily a bad thing, only when indulged in excessively one loses a lot of vital energy which makes us feel drained and hastens the aging process, while not providing the required flow of Prana (Life Force) to reach the brain where it is utilized to awaken our intuitive abilities by opening the Ajna Chakra.

Ajna Chakra“In the ordinary sexual orgasm you meet as two excited beings – tense, full of excitement, trying to unburden yourselves. The ordinary sexual orgasm looks like madness; the tantric orgasm is a deep, relaxing meditation.” ~ Osho

Source: http://www.psychedelicadventure.net/2014/10/watching-porn-draining-your-vital-energy.html

 

The Human Aura and the Seven Bodies

The Human Aura and the Seven Bodies

Just as there are seven dimensions of reality we have seven bodies. Each body corresponds to the seven dimensions of reality. We have a physical body, etheric body, astral body, mental body, soul or causal body, buddhic body, and atmic body. There are other bodies beyond this level which I call the celestial bodies, which are beyond our comprehension at this level of evolution.
Each body also has a characteristic or quality of energy associated with it. The physical body has to do with instinct. The etheric body with the vital force and vital energy. The astral body with desires, feelings and emotions. The mental body with the concrete mind. The soul or causal body with the abstract mind. The buddhic body with intuition. The atmic body with spiritual will.

The Physical Body
An explanation of the physical body is not needed for we are all very familiar with this body. The only thing I would add would be to say that the physical body is the temple for the incarnating Soul. It is an instrument and vehicle for the exploration of the physical world. The physical body is the vehicle for the manifestation of Soul on this plane of existence, and the Soul is the vehicle on a higher plane for the manifestation of Spirit or the Monad.

A great many people don’t realize the importance of evolving the physical body along with the other bodies. For it is impossible for those with coarse, dense bodies to contact high vibrations. The refinement of the physical body is essential. Many spiritual aspirants work on evolving the other bodies and not the physical body, and end up getting sick because of the discrepancy in vibrational frequency.
It is not the purpose of this chapter to be a manual on how to care for the physical vehicle. However, it is suffice to say that the following simple suggestions would be extremely helpful.

  • Physical fitness program.
  • Eating of pure food.
  • Proper sleep habits.
  • Sunshine, at least ten to twenty minutes a day if possible. The sun kills all germs and frees one from disease, as well as vitalizes the etheric body.
  • Cleanliness, much use of water both inwardly and outwardly.
  • Stay away from sugar as much as possible and artificial stimulants (coffee and tea) and drugs.
  • Make sure to create playtime.

 Stages-of-Conscious-AwakeningThe Etheric Body
The etheric body or the etheric double is an exact replica of the physical body. It is the archetype upon which the physical form is built. There is nothing in the manifested universe, solar, planetary or the various kingdoms of nature which does not possess an energy form or etheric body. This etheric body controls and governs and conditions the outer physical body.

The function of the etheric body is to store up the rays of radiatory light and heat which are secured from the sun, and to transmit them via the spleen chakra, to all parts of the physical body. The etheric body is a web or network of fine interlacing channels. These nerve channels are called “nadis”.This etheric web or network, during incarnation, forms a barrier between the physical and astral planes. People who have taken large amounts of drugs or psychedelics can cause this etheric webbing to be broken which can cause them to be unprotected from lower astral energies.

The etheric body can also be likened to the energy battery of the physical body. Etheric congestion in some part of the etheric body can lead to many forms of disease and mental unclarity. The etheric body is vitalized and controlled by thought, and can be brought into full functioning activity by right thinking.Most diseases that the physical body suffers from, have their roots in the etheric body, and astral bodies. The principal factors in establishing a healthy well flowing etheric body are sunshine, light diet, with emphasis upon proper proteins and vitamins, and the avoidance of fatigue and worry.

Astral Body
The astral body relates us to the astral plane and to our desires, feelings, and emotions. Most people in the world are run by their astral body. In other words they are run by their feelings, emotions and desires. The astral body ends up running the conscious mind, instead of the conscious mind having self mastery to the proper integration of their feelings and emotions.
Many people travel in this body when they “astral project”. We all do this when we sleep at night and often have dreams of flying in this body. Some people have developed the ability to travel in this body consciously. The limitation of this is that one is then limited to traveling only in the astral plane (which is not a very evolved place to be). If one would travel in their soul body or light body they would have greater range of dimensions in which to travel.

The great teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism emphasize the need to eliminate desire. What this means is to make one’s only desire the desire for liberation and God realization instead of all the material desires of the negative ego consciousness.
The astral body receives the impression of every passing desire it contacts in the environment. Every sound causes it to vibrate. The great need of the spiritual aspirant is to train the astral body to receive and register only those impressions which come from the level via the higher self.
The aim of the aspirant would be to so train the emotional body that it will become still and clear as a mirror, so that it reflects perfectly. The words that ideally describe the emotional body should be “still, serene, unruffled, quiet, at rest, clear.”

Djwhal-Khul_The-TibetanPonder on This
Djwhal Khul, in the Alice Bailey books, has elucidated how this should be accomplished:

1. “By the constant watching of all desires, motives and wishes, that cross the horizon daily, and by the subsequent emphasizing of all those that are of a high order, and by inhibition of the lower.”

2. “By a constant daily attempt to contact the Higher Self, and to reflect its wishes in the life.”

3. “By definite periods of meditation daily, directed to the stilling of the emotional body… Each aspirant must discover for himself when he yields most easily to violent vibrations, such as fear, worry, personality desire of any kind, personality love of anything or anyone, discouragement, over sensitiveness to public opinion: Then he or she must overcome that vibration by imposing on it a new rhythm, definitely eliminating and reconstructing.”

4. “By work done on the emotional body at night, under the direction of more advanced souls, working under the guidance of a Master.”

When illusion and glamour have been overcome, the astral body fades out in the human consciousness. There is no desire left for the separated self. Ego disappears, and man is then regarded as consisting essentially of Soul, mind, and brain within the physical body nature.

The Mental Body
The mental body is associated with the mental plane and the concrete mind. The refinement and development of this body is the result of hard work and discrimination. There is a great need for clear thinking, not on subjects where interest is aroused, but on all matters affecting one’s life and humanity. It means the ability to make thought forms out of thought matter, and to utilize these thought forms for the helping of one’s fellow man.

One of the great needs in respect to the mental body is to learn to still the mental body so that thoughts from abstract levels and from the intuitional planes can find a receptive mind whereon they may inscribe themselves.
Two qualities should be developed above all else in respect to the mental body. First is an unshaken perseverance, and fortitude. The second being a progress that is made without undue self-analysis. Pull not your selves up by the roots to see if there is growth.

The capacity of perseverance explains why the non-spectacular man or woman often attains initiation before the genius.
The mental body remains clear because of keeping a good mental diet. Every thought that comes from your subconscious mind or from other people should be discerned and discriminated against to determine if it is of God or not of God, and if it is truth or illusion.

If it is positive and of God, the idea is to let it into your mind, like you would good food into the stomach. If it is negative and not of God, then the idea is to deny its entrance into your mind. It is the ongoing process of remaining conscious and vigilant and not going on automatic pilot that will keep your mental body clear. By keeping your mental body clear it will help to keep your emotional body, etheric body, and physical body clear, for it is your thoughts that create your reality. This last point cannot be emphasized enough!

The Soul and/or Causal Body
The Soul body or causal body is on the higher mental plane and the quality or characteristic of it is the abstract mind. The causal body is the temple of the Soul. The causal body is the storage house of all our good karma and virtue from all our past lives and our present life.
The causal body is a collection of three permanent atoms enclosed in an envelope of mental essence. The three permanent atoms are recording devices for our physical, astral, and mental bodies. These permanent atoms record our karma.

In our very first incarnations on earth our causal body was a colorless ovoid holding the Soul like a yolk within an egg shell. As we incarnated over and over again we began to build good karma and virtue into our causal body and it began to become a thing of rare beauty, containing within itself all the colors of the rainbow. Djwhal Khul has called this a form of “divine vampirism” where the Soul sucks the good out of the personal life, and stores it in the body of the Soul.
This building proceeds slowly at first, but towards the end of incarnation when one steps more firmly on the path of probation and initiation, the work proceeds rapidly. It is at the fourth initiation that the causal body is burned up and merges back into the monad, and the evolving Soul then receives guidance directly from the monad. This is a great marker point in the initiation of a Soul on the Spiritual path.

imagesThe Buddhic Body
The buddhic body is associated with the buddhic plane and the characteristic quality of it is intuition. After passing the fourth initiation one lives in the buddhic body.

The Atmic Body
The atmic body is associated with the atmic plane and the characteristic and quality of it is spiritual will. This is the body one inhabits upon passing the fifth initiation.

The Glorified Light Body
There is one other body which I have not mentioned, which bears great importance on the Spiritual path, and that is the importance of creating one’s “Light Body”.

The light body or body of light is the body we will inhabit at the time of our ascension. The ascension being the complete merger with the monad and/or I Am Presence on earth. It is at this time our entire being merges into light. It is the light body that we will officially step into. It is in a sense, the “wedding garment” that we are building day by day as we travel the path of initiation. It is created by the light that we are creating in our daily lives. This body is not fully complete until right before ascension itself.

The Aura
Everything that has been created has an aura of some kind. In human beings the aura surrounds the central nucleus or soul fragment or extension of the Overshadowing Soul.
The aura is composed of four basic fields. These are the physical health aura, the astral or emotional aura, the mental aura and the etheric body aura. The astral aura is usually most dominant in most people on our planet although this is beginning to change as we move deeper into the Aryan root race which is a mental attunement.
The mental aura is usually very small in the average person, however, develops rapidly once the disciple becomes polarized in the mental body at the latter stages of the second and beginning of the third initiation. Djwhal Khul says in “Ponder on This”, that the “mental aura will eventually obliterate the emotional or astral aura and then the soul quality of love will create a substitute, that is of a higher nature.”

A-WpdlGCAAEapwgEvery person lives and moves within their fourfold aura. This living, vital aura serves as a recording agent of all impressions of both an objective and subjective nature. It is the aura which creates the effects upon other people. Not so much the words as some people think. It is also the aura which the Master watches. Specifically, the Master is looking for the light of the Soul within the aura to determine whether the disciple is nearing the path of discipleship. As the emotional reactions lessen, and the mental apparatus clears, the progress of the aspirant is noted.
The aura is radiatory in nature and extends from all the bodies in every direction. The seven chakras also have a great effect on the nature of a person’s aura. A highly emotional person working through an overdeveloped and uncontrolled solar plexus chakra can wreck havoc in a home or office. On the other side of the coin, a disciple consciously using the heart or throat center can carry inspirations to hundreds and thousands and more.

The aura is brought into right radiatory condition by right living, high thinking, and loving activity. This leads the initiate to become a center of living light where all seven of the chakras are merged into one light. Each person looks out into the world through their aura.
The four words that best describe the human aura are color, light, quality, and sphere of influence. Most psychics or clairvoyants are just seeing the astral range of the aura. In reality there are seven layers to the aura.

Christ’s aura was so powerful that all people had to do was touch Him and the virtue would pour out of Him and heal. Every person’s aura either attracts or repels depending on the programming and patterning within the individual. Groups have an aura, countries have an aura, and the earth, as a whole, has an aura. A Master only has to look at the light reflected in a person’s aura to determine their level of evolution.

Source: http://iamuniversity.org/the-human-aura-and-the-seven-bodies

Food and the Illusion of Separation

fhsdjIn Mastering the Grand Illusions Part 7 we learn about the illusion of separation. Ekara tells us that there really are only two states the mind knows: fear or desire. Fear or Desire. Same energy, one supposedly negative and the other positive. They show up in different frequencies and vibrations according to what suits the mind in that moment.
Contemplate this for a moment… Only two states. You’re either pulled towards it or you want to run away from it as fast as you can. You either want something or you don’t. It’s quite staggering that those two poles of that same energy basically determine how we perceive reality.

As ascension students we are expected to drop our habits and our patterns. Some are so deeply imprinted on our DNA – after all we have come in with the same personality construct in place for many, many, many incarnations – that they will show up time and time again.

orange-dna-strandMany of those deeply engrained patterns and habits congregate around food. Food is part of the illusions of form and separation, the belief system of a physical body needing sustenance from an external source in order to survive.

To help us go beyond our patterning, we have changed our eating habits with the guidance of our teachers. Ascended Life has found that when that is left up to the individual, it occupies our minds too much and distracts from what this path is really about: ascension.

When you start observing your habits around food, you can see how patterned up you truly are, how you’re driven by desires, cravings, likes and dislikes. Processed food is aimed at feeding those cravings and creating addictions to certain substances to keep you dumbed down. It’s just one of the ways the system firmly pushes the lid on expanding consciousness.

I am one of these ascension students who has a “food thing”. I love everything connected with food and the preparation thereof. There is nothing about food that the personality doesn’t like – and that is what I have to let go of because there just is too much focus on something that will eventually go anyway.

There are a few things I recently learned that I’m sure not many people know, which gave me a much deeper understanding of just how much we are programmed when it comes to our eating habits. One thing that really floored me is the fact that archetypes live in fat cells. The chubbier you are, the more archetype infested you are, and the more difficult it becomes to stay or even become conscious. Obviously, when you eat more, your cravings and addictions increase, making it even more difficult to step away from that.

And so a vicious cycle ensues.

4296843Human bodies are not designed to be fat; they’re supposed to be lean with supple muscles tissue and flexible joints. Look at indigenous people in South America for example that still live close to Gaia. They eat little but what they eat is healthy and gives them all the energy they need. No fat people among them.

I feel very blessed to live in the southernmost part of Europe. If you ask me, it’s the perfect place to be able to buy the freshest fruit and produce grown locally in this beautifully sunny and warm climate of the Algarve. And you won’t find fresher fish anywhere on the planet. Everything here is geared to making it easy for us to switch to a much healthier lifestyle. No processed food enters our kitchen.

So these days, we eat what the body needs rather than what it wants. Oatmeal or fruit for breakfast, a little snack, and vegetables or rice and chicken or fish for dinner. No gravies so we learn to appreciate the food in its purity again, as all the extras are only feeding the cravings coming from our program. Also, we don’t determine when we eat.

That’s when you really start seeing your patterning. In the first few weeks, the body signaled to me an almost 24/7 feeling of hunger. It’s interesting that when you’re not in charge of when you eat, your brain will create the feeling of being hungry much earlier and on a much more sustained level, as opposed to when you determine your meal times yourself. It’s all illusion. I’ve also noticed in the beginning that whatever the body got fed, it was never enough. This alone should have rung alarm bells as it is being given all the energy and nutrients it needs. However, it was not being used to eating a lot less and there was a constant “lack alert”.

This, fortunately, has started to subside a little, especially because I know that all of that is coming from programming – mental attacks to pull me out of consciousness. The lack alert is still there. It’s a craving to eat more, telling me that the portions I eat are not big enough to sustain me even when the stomach is full! It’s crazy. I’ve learned to dismiss these thoughts a lot quicker now. Still they try to come in.

downloadThe lack program also kicked in in the form of an almost compulsive need to compare my portion to the ones around me. I mean, really? I’m almost ashamed to admit this, but especially at the start of our new food scheme it really tried to feed me the thought of pulling at the shortest end. I put that one in Amber’s dumpster! Nasty program, that one, and as ridiculous and illusory as all the others.

Then there are the cravings. They’ve also started to subside but still come in from time to time. The silly thing is, they’re about nothing in particular, just food. Anything really. This tells me again how deeply these patterns have nestled themselves in the mind.

And this is exactly why we had to change our eating habits. Now that these addictions, habits, cravings, and belief systems are finally all drifting up to the surface, they can be seen and let go of. They have nowhere to hide anymore. Rather than perceiving lack, I’m opting for seeing their surfacing as a relief.

Admittedly, there is quite some awareness and focus involved to ditch these thoughts as soon as they come in. It’s worth the effort and it gets easier and easier and the thoughts are weaker now every time.

I’ve come to appreciate food in a very different way. As the tastebuds have become accustomed to “plain” food, they’ve learned to pull out subtle flavors long forgotten. We eat much more consciously. It has become a mediation for me, savoring every bite, sending my gratitude to Gaia for nourishing my body in such a delicious way. Life force food.

Our teachers know what they’re doing. As long as we’re still caught up in the illusions, this new way of dealing with the personality’s eating habits feels like a blessing in many ways. We’re not deprived of anything. Instead, we’re getting the best nutrients the body needs to stay healthy and in good shape. As I said in the beginning, we eat what our physical vessel needs rather than what it wants.

maxresdefaultKuthumi once gave us a food exercise in the Divinity Manifest (which is part of the Imzaia Archives) in the teaching Return to Innocence, in which he explains a way to deal with the illusion of separation and food in a very different way:

You wake up and your let’s call it “external stomach” — because you think it is something that is just happening in the body — growls and you think, “I’m hungry and I need to put something external inside of me to make the external feeling of hunger stop”. Did you ever consider that the apple that you are eating as breakfast for instance is pouring out of you as well? And did you ever consider how ridiculous it looks to us when we see you creating the feeling of hunger and then going hunting for an apple or whatever it is that is already pouring out of you as well and then put that back inside of you on a physical level so that you could be satisfied? I know, I like the nonsensical field, but you people have made the Earth more nonsensical than the nonsensical field. Really!

Going back to the apple and the stomach and the feeling of hunger: It might be difficult for humanity, even for you at this stage, to just acknowledge that the feeling of hunger is an illusion. But how about you do a little experiment with the apple before you eat it? How about you find a quiet space next time you are hungry and you take your favorite food? It doesn’t matter what you take. It could be an apple. It could also be a snack. It could be chocolate. Actually I’m giving you the world’s best diet ever: You can eat anything without eating it! Let’s say an apple, and you put the apple in front of you and you sit down and you got the feeling of hunger and you don’t try to fight it. You just accept it. And you see that what the external mind is basically telling you is that there is a lack within you.

So the external mind creates the separation, the lack that you feel, and then the creation that you have created to take that feeling away again, namely the apple, is also separated from you so that you have to go through the trouble and through the negative experience basically of eating it. (I will explain in a minute why it is a negative experience). Instead of doing that, why don’t you put the apple in front of you and connect it to the feeling of hunger that you have and then you just let the energy flow back and forth?

You will see after a while of trying this that the feeling of hunger will go away. The apple will still be there. It will not vanish all of a sudden, but it will again come pouring out of you, you see? So the only thing to take the feeling of hunger away is to acknowledge that what you are about to eat is already within you – and I call it the world’s best diet, because you can do it with anything. You can actually do it with all these foods that you like but that would be bad for your body. They’re all the same energy anyway. Do it with the things you like most, but do not desire them. Just accept that they are already a part of you. In that way you can actually stop eating after a while.“

That’s an exercise worth practicing. Until we’ve got that under our thumb, we still eat – healthy, nutritious and delicious home cooked meals with lots of fresh, locally grown produce and fruit. What a grand way let go of a lot of patterns that don’t serve us anymore.

When I look at the rainbow of colorful fruits and vegetables stored in our garage, I feel abundance. When I cook oatmeal for everyone, I feel abundance. When we enjoy our meals together, I feel abundance. We are blessed indeed. All that patterning is just that, illusory figments of the mind. What counts is the burning desire of letting go of them all to allow the emergence of a new being, a conscious one.

And that is worth having to bat off anything that tries to pull us off our chosen vector of ascension.

Namaste,
Jasmine