The Spiritual Impact We Can Expect From The Full Moon In Sagittarius


by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
on Monday June 17th we will collectively experience the impact of a Full Moon in  25 degree of the highly focused zodiac sign of the Sagittarius. Its a time to generously look for the magic and the blessings in our personal life. Although over the coming days its recommended to be careful not to take every situation to the extreme and to be highly aware of the use of our words. 

It is the right moment to not only center our energies and focus on what we truly need for our lives, but also very important to prove that we are truly believing in ourselves.

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.
Barbara De Angelis

It sounds corny, but I’ve promised my inner child that never again will I ever abandon myself for anything or anyone else again.
Wynonna Judd

Finding our inner passion, our mission in life, and connecting with who we really are, our spiritual being or our higher self – this is the key to success and fulfillment. Our ‘soul’ purpose is our sole purpose in life.
Kristiane Backer

Collectively our need for creativity can be enhanced under the influence of this Sagittarius Full Moon and a new way of personal expression might be encountered by many who have been holding back so far.

The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.
Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Creativity is the state of consciousness in which you enter into the treasury of your innermost being and bring the beauty into manifestation.
Torkom Saraydarian

Creativity is the way I share my soul with the world.
Brene Brown
With the need to focus our energies and clear the path for what we truly need for our life, having faith in ourselves and in life is one of the most important themes that will move the collective with this Sagittarius constellation.

When you get to the end of all the light you know and it’s time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: either you will be given something solid to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly.
Edward Teller

Faith is walking face-first and full-speed into the dark. If we truly knew all the answers in advance as to the meaning of life and the nature of God and the destiny of our souls, our belief would not be a leap of faith and it would not be a courageous act of humanity; it would just be… a prudent insurance policy.
Elizabeth Gilbert

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Nelson Mandela

Last but not least its worth mentioning that there is an invitation in the air to discover and apply brand new ways of communication in our daily life, as the winds of change will challenge and evolve our ability to connect with self and others. Get off your electronics and into the world of meditation, energetic communication and telepathic connection my friends and you might unveil brand new realms for yourself.

Self-Communication is the most important of all communication skills, for the way we talk to ourselves will determine our beliefs, actions and even the way we live.
Unknown

To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
Tony Robbin.

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said. The art of reading between the lines is a life long quest of the wise.
Shannon L. Alder
Dear Ones, I hope you are all feeling highly focused and ready to go with the wind of change during the impact of this splendid Full Moon in Sagittarius! Set your direction and allow your faith to work out the details along the way.
Love & Full Moon Blessings!
Edith

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Celebrating The Roots Of The Wild Child Within Us

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
over the last few years of my personal awakening journey I have met a lot of different  people from all kinds of countries, cultures, traditions, religions and mindsets. I had the wonderful chance to communicate in many languages with the most diverse human beings, all of them consciously aware of our collective process of awakening into the Golden Age of Aquarius.
While so many rules in the religions and traditions that some of us where raised in would naturally forbid us to connect, our authentic passion for digging deep to the origin of our inner wild child was always a reason to get in touch anyway. Maybe its time for all human beings to allow again that the wilderness of this inner child is enlightening the path for us.

There is nothing wrong with technology. It’s a gift! I don’t think we should keep our kids away from the modern conveniences of our time, but I do believe it’s time to regain some balance. Children can benefit from technology, but they need nature. Let them have their video games and Internet, but make sure they are getting equal amounts of mud, dirt, sticks, puddles, free play and imagination.
Brooke Hampton

We need the tonic of wildness…
At the same time that we are earnest to explore and learn all things, we require that all things be mysterious and unexplorable, that land and sea be indefinitely wild, unsurveyed and unfathomed by us because unfathomable. We can never have enough of nature.
Henry David Thoreau

They caught the wild children and put them in zoos,
They made them do sums and wear sensible shoes.
They put them to bed at the wrong time of day,
And made them sit still when they wanted to play.

They scrubbed them with soap and they made them eat peas.
They made them behave and say pardon and please.
They took all their wisdom and wildness away.
That’s why there are none in the forests today.
Jeanne WillisI am not a Sunday morning inside four walls
with clean blood
and organized drawers.

I am the hurricane setting fire to the forests
at night when no one else is alive
or awake
however you choose to see it

and I live in my own flames
sometimes burning too bright and too wild
to make things last

or handle
myself or anyone else
and so I run.

run run run
far and wide
until my bones ache and lungs split

and it feels good.
Hear that people? It feels good
because I am the slave and ruler of my own body
and I wish to do with it exactly as I please
Charlotte Eriksson

Wild woman are an unexplainable spark of life. They ooze freedom and seek awareness, they belong to nobody but themselves yet give a piece of who they are to everyone they meet. If you have met one, hold on to her, she’ll allow you into her chaos but she’ll also show you her magic.
Nikki RoweDear Ones, I hope you are all doing amazing right now and enjoy the current collective energy field. I hope you feel inspired by this quotes, to take a deeper look at your authentic wild side again, and unleash what wants to be set free. 
Love and Wilderness!!
Edith

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What The Energy Field Of The Gemini New Moon Is Offering Us

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
I am bringing good news for all of us, on May 25th we are meeting a New Moon in the zodiac sign of Gemini, positioned at 4 degree and 37 minutes. After the massively intense and emotionally profound impact of the past Scorpio Full Moon, this will bring a lot of relaxation for the collective emotional body. Under the influence of the twins, we are feeling the lightness and playfulness that the uplifting quality of the air element provides.
The Air Element is usually identified with the eastern world and the eastern philosophy. It is the element that starts and ends the experience of human life on planet earth. It is the vital breath of the universe, it stands for the mind, for turning knowledge to wisdom, and the inner guidance of the soul.

A particularly outstanding detail during this Gemini New Moon stellar event is, that this Moon falls on a critical degree. That means the energy field arriving is on one hand caring the quality of the twins gentleness, and on the other hand it is at the same time essentially extremely strong. This field creates an amazing opportunity to get in touch with all the positive qualities the Gemini zodiac sign is bearer of.
Now is the time to breath in a sense of adventure and to be rejuvenated by this breath of life. Its a chance to make a conscious re-connection with the joyful, playful and childlike energy body, that we in the western world are since Carl Jung used to call ‘the inner child’.

During this New Moon cycle we can find Mercury, the planetary ruler of the star sign Gemini, in the zodiac energy of the Taurus. The physical weight, natural gravity and profound love for planet earth which comes with the moon influence, will help all of the human collective to make well balanced, deeply grounded and practically possible moves towards the realization of our true soul dreams. If there is any creative project that you have been dreaming about since a while, NOW is the perfect time to start putting them into realization. This moment in time is a blessed doorway for especially all creations that are made with the strength of our physical body.

A possible challenge to the all over dominant feeling of relaxation and ease, is the fact that Venus is squared by Pluto during the New Moon. This constellation can trigger us collectively with feelings of emotional insecurity, of mental instability and irritation on the topics of money and of our love affairs.
Do not let the dissolving illusions bring you down my friends! Make sure to use all the uplifting powers of this Gemini New Moon to stay in touch with your higher guidance and to come into levels of higher awareness about life. Stay open to new learning experiences, approach them all from an inner state of curiosity and innocence, and you world can unfold beautifully! The secret of remaining young is never to have an emotion that is unbecoming.
Oscar Wilde

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.
Steve Furtick

You lack the courage to be consumed in flames and to become ashes: so you will never become new, and never young again!
Friedrich Nietzsche

When I was 30, I used to wonder when I was going to quit playing. Use disorder worry about it. Now, I know I’m never going to quit.
Davis Miller

A child who does not play is not a child, but the man who does not play has lost forever the child who lived in him.
Pablo Neruda

My whole effort here is to keep you as non-serious as possible, for the simple reason that meditation, all kinds of meditation, can make you too serious and that seriousness will create a spiritual disease and nothing else. Unless a meditation brings you more laughter, more joy, more playfulness, avoid it. It is not for you.
Rajneesh

I am often accused of being childish.  I prefer to interpret that as child-like. I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things.  I tend to exaggerate and fantasize and embellish.  I still listen to instinctual urges.  I play with leaves.  I skip down the street and run against the wind.  I never water my garden without soaking myself.  It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work.
Leo F. BuscagliaDear Ones, I hope that the playful Gemini energies are making it easy for you right now, to sing and dance thru every challenge life might bring to your door!! May you all enjoy every step of your way and fill the heart of  your inner child with a divine music that guides you home.
Love & Moon Blessings!
Edith

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Me, The Mayan Calender And Alice In Wonderland

esiby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
some of you might remember the post I shared to celebrate my last birthday with all of you, called “My Collection Of Awakening Experiences Continues No III“. In this post I mentioned to you that I had the pleasure to receive a reading of my personal Maya Calender interpretation from a dear new friend of mine, the amazing Austrian artist Gerhild Resch. She has the incredible ability to channel in a shamanic journey setting, how the Nawales (the different qualities of ones inner powers) are feeling and if they are in need of any adaptations. I told you, that I would happily be report about the incredible details she unveiled to me in another post, so here we are with more insides to my world.

For a better understanding, allow me to share very simple and basic details about the calender work of the Mayan civilization, which helps us cultivating an understanding for the rhythms and cycles of the divine vibrations that we are caring within our character. A reading of the human being in its divine qualities, is usually designed as a cross of energies. The Mayan Cross is comprised of five archetypal energies – the are called Nawales, day signs or sometimes also known as day lords.
This day signs are glyphs and numerals from the Mayan sacred calendar (the Tzolkin), which represent our cosmic blueprint, our energetic signature vibration, also explained as the personal Tree of Life. The guidance of the Mayan calendar provides us with insides in our personal divine plan, and helps us align our daily actions with this divine cosmic inner forces.
The system of the Mayan calender is quite a complex one and would by far extend the space we have right now for details, but please read into it if you are interested now, there is so much to gain when we start understanding our own energies as in relationship with external rhythms and cycles of timing.

My personal center quality is that of E or EB, on the Galactic Tone of 9. That is the power of people designed to create roads and pathways, that others cant come up with, so they can go back and share their insides with the world. A job, I do believe to cover pretty well in my life right now ;-).eHere is what Hilda found, when diving into my internal world of Mayan powers – in her original words (translated from German to English by me):
“I am arriving in the center of a flower. This flower feels like it is a very personal and private little world in its own rights. The flower starts growing, I am just there watching it gain in size for a while; to than transform into a building – a beautiful castle. Where ever I am looking, there are fairy tail beings walking thru the different rooms of the building. A cat is about to clime the walls.
I walk into a lovely setting and over a gigantic stairway, which ends up in a magical spot in nature. Everywhere there are even more fairy tail beings, gnomes, dwarfs, ferries. Everything is very colorful, everyone is having fun and all are in a peaceful state of behavior with another.
I am looking up at the walls of the castle and realize that it has the shape of a tulip flower. On the very top of the flowers blossom, there is a half angel, half bird like being – sitting there to guard the space. While I am still taking in the scenario, the guardian comes flying down over my head, gently lifts me up, and takes me into the crown of a tree. Immediately is clear – this is the tree of the ancestor connections.

The branches are full of creatively decorated bird houses. The energy is happy and extremely relaxed. Everything is created in a jolly vibration. Lots of flowers are growing from the trees, some of them even from the ground into heaven. I discover a young woman (she might be called Isabel), who is sitting with relaxed tangling legs on a high, big old branch of the center tree and enjoys the scenery. She is wearing a perfectly white dress and moves within the trees as safe as a monkey would (my Chinese astrological sign). She hands over to me – a present for you!
The scenery is suddenly changing into the world of Kame – the death. The colors are gone, the feeling is that of a mystical and magical space, now in the shadows of the big majestic trees. Under the tree of the ancestors there is a path unveiling and I follow it without doubt further into the woods.
Wondering along I come to a gigantic, impressive door, all made of obsidian crystal. I pass the gate, come to a wide open space and realize – I am standing in an obsidian knife production. Where ever you look, the floor is covered with splinter from the work, and every being passing by – gets handed their own personal obsidian knife. I also got one ;-)!
Happily I continue walking, just to arrive at a lovely pond full of people. Its summer there, its sunny, its colorful and its funny. There are families gathering, children are playing; their laughter mixing with the happy dog barking and splashing sounds from the ones out for a swim. There are balloons, food and drinks; and it all feels like a very real scene from everyday life. The cat – which is representing the center energy E – is again there, playing with the children; closing the circle of love. Its a extremely healthy, productive, active, delightful, joyful and over all life embracing world. Simply beautiful!”ebDear Ones, when my friend came by to bless me with this report of what she had found my qualities to feel, her explanations started with telling me that she had ever only shared a world like mine for one time before in all of her long experience, and that was in a reading she provided for a child. In her words, the space she was invited to discover in my sacred heart, was that of “Alice in Wonderland” ;-), I am sure by now you clearly can see why ;-). My friends, I hope this is inspiration for you, and that you feel invited now to make your inner world a place truly worthy to be seen as a representative of the Golden Age of Aquarius too.
Love and Magical Blessings!
Edith

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What I Learned From Integrating The Divine Masculine Healing Part II

1by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
in yesterdays post What I Learned From Integrating The Divine Masculine Healing Part I, I shared  some personal stories of how the big collective healing of the divine masculine body, which occurred for all of humanity in February has effected my life. As I mentioned before, the triggers involved back than have particularly been cycling around masculine role models and abuses, that came from masculine authority figures. Such an impact of abuse it was for example that I could clear for myself in my little interaction with the street dogs on the beach, which I promised to follow up with – a beach boy story. So this is where I will pick it up today.

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The morning after my street dog beach party I was sitting in front of my room enjoying a morning tea, when a man simply asked me for the sugar. One thing lead to the other and we ended in a passionate and interesting conversation. We clicked as people and from there on it was like watching a whole 5 year relationship unfold in front of me, within the period of 6 hours.
Met a guy at the buffet, shared a coffee and talked a while; went our ways.. met again and enjoyed spending more time… separated again.. did our things and the next time we met (between 9am in the morning and 3pm in the afternoon), he had developed the idea of having a RIGHT to CLAIM and DEMAND my time, space and presence. No feeling into the moment and enjoy what naturally unfolds, no listening to what I am sharing and or respect for what I expressed to need anymore!  SERIOUSLY… within 6 hours??
Girls my tip is, if you see him do that within 6 hours, JUST WALK AWAY… no matter how cute, sexy, interesting or otherwise attractive he is for you!!

But of course where there is masculine healing, there is also the theme of personal love relationships. And there I had the chance to let go of my past, and start again to the bones. I had a visit from an ex-boyfriend of mine. A man who spend years visiting me again and again, sharing his up and downs of life, who asked for help or advice many times – and, as I finally understood, had not heard a single word of what “I really need” in all this years. I felt very happy to be capable of finally expressing this awareness in clarity, and to set myself free from further demands from his side.8And please don’t get me wrong now – I am not writing this to talk bad about guys. That is not what this share is about, these are just some challenges I overcame during this months. There have been tons of blessings to balance the energies as well!! On professional level just about all my clients recently have been man. Most of the man I worked with, had deep and old pain in their personal experience and family line. Nearly all of them focused in their healing process on forgiveness relate to their divine masculine energy and the inner child’s past imprints.
It was incredibly touching and humbling to be chosen as witness and supporter of the profound transformation they where able to allow. I am deeply confident that the insides and feelings they touched, will have a long-lasting impact on the future created.

On personal level I had the most beautiful conversations with men I recently met, much better connections and deeper clarity in the exchanges with men I know since a while, lovely new encounter full of gentleness and authenticity and I can sense a deeper trust in my co-creations and interactions with men in general.
But then its also important to say, that the healing of the divine masculine energy within is not about men! In essence it is rather about the depths of balance and harmony that can be achieved internally, between the divine feminine and the divine masculine forces in the sanctuary of our own sacred heart. And that picture is much bigger than the meeting of men and women.
What I clearly sense is that I feel an even deeper safety about life itself right now. I feel my boundaries are defined as crystal clear and authentic, that I can trust this inner father of mine to naturally stand up again every insult or aggression against my person or soul. I feel, the woman that I am as much as the over all person, is much more relaxed now. It is with ease that I engage, with ease that I stand up or speak out for myself, with ease that I walk away from things that harm me and it is with ease that I embrace all the beauty and good things that come to me.tDear Ones, I hope you had fun sticking your nose in my life ;-). Hope what I shared is inspiration to take a look back over the last few weeks and see, if you can detect moments in your life in influenced by the divine masculine healing , that now are more balanced and clear than they have been before. I hope over time this will lead us to more loving and caring relationships between all beings on earth!
Love and Blessings!!
Edith

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What I Learned From Integrating The Divine Masculine Healing Part I

bby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
I am sure some of you still remember that in February together with the Mars retrograde phase, a big collective healing of the divine masculine body occurred for all of humanity. That was such a strong impact, which shifted so many peoples life profoundly, that by now many of us feel the energies have translated into different life situations that make us understand the steps we took. Back than, the energetic field invited us to concentrate our focus on the healing of the inner child, and develop new ways to gain its lost powers back.
The healing and transforming triggers involved, have particularly been cycling around masculine role models and abuses that came from masculine authority figures. And working on the themes we detect connected to this triggers, each of us had the chance for a hug personal leap in consciousness. And so did I.
Since a little while now, I had in mind to share with you the results I feel from this healing wave, and finally two days ago something happened that closed the circle within.

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To make sense of the following stories, I first need to share that I am the youngest child from a family of six. Three boys and three girls, lead by two emotionally immature parents with a quick tendency to react violently to disturbances of their daily routines. Born in 1931, they where seven years old when the second world war started in Austria, and fourteen years when it ended. An energy field that was deeply implanted in all their creation ways and reaction pattern. In their minds life naturally always is a fight, a thing to survive, a thing that only by force can be handled.
As one of the results of their daily examples, two off my brothers chose // as their usual communication ways, and one of my sisters is quite a strong bully – energetically, emotionally and with words. All my childhood I was scared of authority figures and failed my good share of tests in school, simply because of the pressuring energy field of my teachers.2And while my personal healing path from all this impacts of my family line has begun about 15 years ago in my tantra training, there was still lots of freedom and personal power to gain from this massive wave of masculine love for all humanity.
It somehow started of for me by the end of November, when a former work college and neighbor of mine had delayed a delivery since 4 month and I felt rather trapped in a contract that was no longer aligned with my inner rhythms and cycles. I mad my soul searching, wrote a kind AND clear letter and explaining that the situation had several times caused trouble for my household, and that I will retreat from the purchase if not delivered by the middle of the month of December, as I wanted it all to be resolved by the end of the year 2015. The delivery finally arrived on the 23rd! I also had payed in advance and there was some money outstanding, I gave him some days and than asked for the final, so we can close the accounting together. Nothing came back until the 31st of December after midday, where the final arrived in my mailbox and the money at my door.
Looking at the numbers, I realized that just about every single item was overpriced to the original offer. So I wrote another letter asking for clarification. The answer I received was “Please you have to give me some time and be considerate with me, as I have a party to give today and do not want to think of business anymore!”… And there something very old in me snapped!
I realized that because of his genuine kindness and wish to help, I had allowed this man to pull on my energetic mother strings over and over again, tolerating a behavior that at the end for me personally created pain and suffering. So I decided that this is never gonna happen again in my life at all, no matter who the person is. I spend some time burning the energies that came up in the inner flame of my conscious alchemy and made my peace. I informed him that for me this is over and done for me. At the beginning of March I met him again on the street. Finally it was his time to acknowledge his actions, apologize and give some money back!

The next bigger impact came in December to my door. For me totally out of the blue, a town member exploded violently on me in a written threat, because he felt disturbed by us (me and my 4 dogs) passing on our morning walk his property on a public path. For him it created a noise problem, as he lives at his place with 10 dogs who are all in the garden over night. I was not thrilled being once again bullied with violence into functioning the way somebody aggressively demands.
Anyway, I decided to transform again all feelings that came up in my inner fire, and invited him for a talk to find solutions together. He refused with the words “you are the solution”. I gave him two month without passing or writing and than i contacted him again. I wanted to be sure he calmed down and see if we can talk. There was no change on his side.1For me the picture was much bigger than walking or not walking by his house. I felt such an intense resistance to allow his violence to make a change to my life. I sensed that what he was actually saying was, “my life/creations/decisions are more important than yours, and if you don’t bow to this idea – I will violate you”!
I felt angry, hurt, bullied and also seriously frighten and at the same time, I knew that I can not let him get away with it. When the weeks passed and I never got a confirmation that he is taking back his threat, I made my peace and decision how to deal with the situation. On legal level I let him know that he would have to pay for a physically violent attack, on spiritual level I accepted even deeper that I can not change other peoples actions and that I rather chose to empower my freedom from all fears of human violence – than to bow.

In the middle of March I went on a little trip to the sea. I was sitting on the beach with the first street dog friend I made (a female), and watched quite amused the social interactions between the dogs. Within an hour we met about a docent different male dogs with every type of character. It was lot of fun how they approached one by one – some gentle and shy, others happily playful or proud and confident. Fun, till one came on rather aggressive. He did not come like all the others from the front or the side to my body, he came from behind. His energy field was not that of interest in us, but the try to domineer, frighten and bully us.
I sensed into the situation, connected with my deep breathing, and calmed my feelings of fear – that naturally had kicked in. I opened my third eye connection with the dog and told him that we are here peacefully united and do not appreciate the way he is talking to us. I told him he is welcome to join us and relax with us from being strong all the time. He took a minute to sense into the truthfulness of this information, changed his body language and walked over to calmly sit down next to us. Within another five minutes he signaled to feel safe enough with us, that I was invited to touch and comfort him too, an honor I felt very blessed an humbled by.ngDear Ones, I hope you enjoyed the read and maybe could find one or the other result of your own, reflected in the words I shared. I will continue sharing my story tomorrow, with  the hilarious experience how the moments with the street dogs of Monterricco immediately translated in the behavior of some guys at the beach ;-), and more conclusions about the changes I feel! Have a wonderful day!
Love and Blessings!!
Edith

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Leo Full Moon And Mercury Goes Direct

kDear Friends,
I highly recommend you take some time tomorrow and let yourself be papered!! Right after the 5 planet stellar alignment of yesterday (Venus, Mars, Mercury, Jupiter and Saturn!!) we are hitting the peek energy of this January Full Moon in Leo. Many of us are still processing the intense effects the resent magical stellar and intergalactic events had on our system, and staying grounded with our energies will be very important over the coming days. To spend some relaxed family time in nature and do a light workout (simply kick some balls with your children!), might be just the right thing to do.
Also think of discovering / renewing / actively continuing your love-relationship with the powerful alchemy of your own breath, and let the waves of light wash away the past!! I hope you are all doing well and feel loved held and guided in this magical dance of constant transformation, we call life. The divine forces are on our side and support us with full power on our collective journey into the Golden Age of Aquarius. I hope you enjoy and use this amazing new energies that the Full Moon is providing to bring forward you true colors and pure light!
Loving Star Light and Blessings
Edith

Shared with the kind permission of the wonderful Kelley Rosano:
There is a Leo Full Moon on January 23. The best part of Leo is the inner child. You are to nourish and protect your childlike innocence. You are to be open to new ideas and fresh perspectives. Be curious about life. Be engaged in the magic of the moment. Be in your heart. Let go of the need to criticize and judge. This will kill your creativity. Instead, allow yourself to make mistakes. It is the only way to learn what works and what does not work for you. The magic word is “try.” Try something different. Keep an open mind and heart. Nourish your gifts. Gifts + Passion + Values = Calling.
What does your heart desire?
What are your gifts?
What have you come to be?
What talents have you come to share?
What is your calling?aLeo represents the creative individual. Aquarius is the power of the whole. There is strength in collaboration. Aquarius teaches us to transcend tribal limitations. You are to go beyond race, gender, age or country. All Are One. The sum (Aquarius) is equal to all of its parts (Leo). Unity builds community. When you join forces with like-minded people, you will be unstoppable. You matter. You count. You have an important role to play. What is your destiny? “Many think success means getting everything I want. And we say, that’s what dead is, and there is no such thing as that kind of dead. Success is not being done; not being complete. Success is still dreaming and feeling positive in the unfolding.” — Abraham
Full Moons are oppositions. On one side, you have the Sun and Pallas Athena in Aquarius. Pallas is the Goddess of Truth and Wisdom. On the other, you have a young Leo Moon. Shouting, “Who wants to play?” Aquarius is an intellectual and determined air sign. Aquarius teaches you about the power of knowledge, facts and reason. Leo is a fire sign. Leo rules leadership, creativity and love. Leo is passion. Aquarius is objectivity. The cosmic message is to balance your heart with your head. Find the middle ground in your relationships. Work to create the win/win with people. Live from your heart. And, be practical in your approach with your dreams and goals. There are many kinds of love. Romantic love is but one expression. Self/Soul love is the foundation to a healthy and happy life. You were born complete. You were born perfect. What you need is inside of you. Loneliness is a disconnect from your own soul (inner child). The word alone means All One. Love you more than the need for a relationship. Love you if you want another to love you. Love you. Make relationship a want not a need. You need food, water and sleep. These are real needs. Relationship is a want. You want it, if, the union adds value to your life. You want relationship, if the person makes your life better. You receive.
What is true for you?
What do you love and value?
Is your heart in the work you are doing?
Is your heart in the relationship?
Are you living the life that you have dreamed?bThe Law of Attraction rules the universe. That, which is within you, is what you draw to you. Change on the inside first. Then the outside will reflect what you want. Change yourself. Be the soul mate to you that you want in your life. In this way, you will attract one who is healthy and whole. Your soul mate will arrive when you are ready. Make the space for a partner if this is what you desire. Act as if, s/he is already here. Give to you the love you want from another. The Leo Full Moon is saying, “Don’t wait to celebrate. Live as if you have what you want.” Then you will be a match in vibration for your heart’s desire. Be love. Be joy. Shine your light. This is very attractive. There are 100 Ways to make you irresistible to the right people and opportunities. Use The Irresistible Attraction Program. Make it happen.
Leo is about who you really are. Your heart. Your essence. Your Inner Child. Purity. Living your life from your creative self-expression. Embracing your unique Self. Aquarius is community. Leo is the creative individual. Aquarius is the power of the whole. There is strength in collaboration. There is strength in numbers. Aquarius teaches us to transcend tribal limitations. You are to go beyond race, gender, age or country. The sum (Aquarius) is equal to all of its parts (Leo). Unity builds community. When you join forces with like-minded people, you will be unstoppable. You matter. You count. You have an important role to play. What is your calling? Now is the time to use your gifts to create a better world. Why are you here at the turning of the ages? Mercury will couple with Pluto at the time of the Full Moon and on January 29. This energy is intense and penetrating. Watch out for mental obsession. Worry is focusing on what you do not want. Wherever your mind goes energy follows. Focus on what you want, not on what you do not. You can solve any mystery or puzzle. You can get to the heart of the matter quickly. Truth may be revealed. On the other hand, be careful. The waters could get rough. It is going to be intense. It could be challenging at times. Some people may be aggressive. Take good care of you. aaMars is the planet of action and desire. He is in Scorpio. Mars is challenging both lights (the Sun and the Moon.) On the one hand, this empowers you to complete your creative endeavors. Watch out for losing your temper. Conversations can erupt into disagreements. This energy can make you irritable. Mars creates sexual tension. Make love not war. Channel your energy into physical activity. If you notice your anger rising, count to ten. This is temporary. The Moon harmonizes with Saturn later that day and then Uranus. Do something new and creative. Build up your strength. Practice patience. Meditate. The Leo Full Moon message is follow your heart’s desire. Play. Let your inner child soar. Fall in love with life. Nurture your gifts. Gifts + Passion + Values = Calling. You end the month with Mercury Direct! This is good news. This is your green light from the universe. You can move ahead with your plans. The Aquarius New Moon on February 8 will be a great time to start a new job or project. Begin a new love affair. Be bold. Be brave. Be Blessed. Be safe. Be well. You are loved. All Are One.

“Let your light shine for your soul is merry and bright. As you share you with this world,
all is better for it.” —Ivo/Lisa Dorr

Magical Blessings,  KelleyRosano.com

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Learn to be “Masters of Love”

kindnessDear Friends,
the other day I was send this article, which I absolutely fell in love with. I do not know the source of the piece and therefore have to apologize to the author -as I can not post the reference and give credit where it belongs!! Never less the work is to beautiful not to be shared!!
I am familiar with the studies John Gottman started in the 70th and therefore found it interesting to see the authors approach. Personally I believe that we are growing up as spiritual beings and, that this includes taking full responsibility for our feelings. I think that everybody has the responsibility to heal the pain of the inner child, the pain body or lower self, how ever you want to call it, to become a productive part of a oneness society. And I think that kindness and presence with the other, are crucial for every relationship, if you are aiming for a long-term engagement.
Very interested to hear what you are thinking!!!
Enjoy the read! Love and Kindness!
Edith

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According to science, lasting relationships come down to – kindness and generosity.
Every year in June, the most popular wedding month of all, thousands of couples say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love. Feelings that will carry them forward to their final days of life on planet earth. Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. The statistics state, that of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages.
In the 1970s, social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action. This happened as there response to a crisis, triggered by a constantly ingresing divorce rate. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the ended marriages, psychologists decided to determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship are. Is each unhappy family unhappy in its own or did the miserable marriages share something in common? Is there a  toxic similarity?

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John Gottman began gathering his most critical findings in 1986, when he set up “The Love Lab” with his colleague Robert Levenson at the University of Washington. Gottman and Levenson brought newlyweds into the lab and watched them interact with each other. With a team of researchers, they hooked the couples up to electrodes and asked the couples to speak about their relationship, like how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and a positive memory they had. As they spoke, the electrodes measured the subjects’ blood flow, heart rates, and how much they sweat they produced. Then the researchers sent the couples home and followed up with them six years later to see if they were still together.
From the data they gathered, Gottman separated the couples into two major groups: the masters and the disasters. The masters were still happily together after six years. The disasters had either broken up or were chronically unhappy in their marriages. When the researchers analyzed the data they gathered on the couples, they saw clear differences between the masters and disasters. The disasters looked calm during the interviews, but their physiology, measured by the electrodes, told a different story. Their heart rates were quick, their sweat glands were active, and their blood flow was fast. Following thousands of couples longitudinally, Gottman found that the more physiologically active the couples were in the lab, the quicker their relationships deteriorated over time.

But what does physiology have to do with anything? The problem was that the disasters showed all the signs of arousal—of being in fight-or-flight mode—in their relationships. Having a conversation sitting next to their spouse was, to their bodies, like facing off with a saber-toothed tiger. Even when they were talking about pleasant or mundane facets of their relationships, they were prepared to attack and be attacked. This sent their heart rates soaring and made them more aggressive toward each other. For example, each member of a couple could be talking about how their days had gone, and a highly aroused husband might say to his wife, “Why don’t you start talking about your day. It won’t take you very long.”
The masters, by contrast, showed low physiological arousal. They felt calm and connected together, which translated into warm and affectionate behavior, even when they fought. It’s not that the masters had, by default, a better physiological make-up than the disasters; it’s that masters had created a climate of trust and intimacy that made both of them more emotionally and thus physically comfortable.

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Gottman wanted to know more about how the masters created that culture of love and intimacy, and how the disasters squashed it. In a follow-up study in 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus to look like a beautiful bed and breakfast retreat. He invited 130 newlywed couples to spend the day at this retreat and watched them as they did what couples normally do on vacation: cook, clean, listen to music, eat, chat, and hang out. And Gottman made a critical discovery in this study—one that gets at the heart of why some relationships thrive while others languish.
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t—those who turned away—would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

5.acts-without-thinking-kindness-picture-quotesBy observing these types of interactions, Gottman can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not—will be broken up, together and unhappy, or together and happy several years later. Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship. Do they bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility?
“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in an interview, “which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.” Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart. “It’s not just scanning environment,” chimed in Julie Gottman. “It’s scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right or scanning him for what he’s doing wrong and criticizing versus respecting him and expressing appreciation.”
Contempt, they have found, is the number one factor that tears couples apart. People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give their partner the cold shoulder—deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally—damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. And people who treat their partners with contempt and criticize them not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill their partner’s ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships.
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

 

kibnThere are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.
The hardest time to practice kindness is, of course, during a fight—but this is also the most important time to be kind. Letting contempt and aggression spiral out of control during a conflict can inflict irrevocable damage on a relationship.
“Kindness doesn’t mean that we don’t express our anger,” Julie Gottman explained, “but the kindness informs how we choose to express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner. Or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry, and that’s the kinder path.” John Gottman elaborated on those spears: “Disasters will say things differently in a fight. Disasters will say ‘You’re late. What’s wrong with you? You’re just like your mom.’ Masters will say ‘I feel bad for picking on you about your lateness, and I know it’s not your fault, but it’s really annoying that you’re late again.’”
“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.” In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

 

loving-kindnessFor the hundreds of thousands of couples getting married this month—and for the millions of couples currently together, married or not—the lesson from the research is clear: If you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often. Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. In the 2006 study, Gable and her colleagues followed up with the couples two months later to see if they were still together. The psychologists found that the only difference between the couples who were together and those who broke up was active constructive responding. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. In an earlier study, Gable found that active constructive responding was also associated with higher relationship quality and more intimacy between partners.
There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness. As the normal stresses of a life together pile up—with children, career, friend, in-laws, and other distractions crowding out the time for romance and intimacy—couples may put less effort into their relationship and let the petty grievances they hold against one another tear them apart. In most marriages, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together. But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

 

Unconditional Self-love and the Inner Child

If the development of personal power is the first golden key to psychological and spiritual health, then unconditional self-love is most definitely the second golden key.
Personal power and self-love are the building blocks of a healthy self concept and self image. The most important relationship in a person’s life is his relationship to himself. If we are wrong with ourselves, we will be wrong with all other relationships. If we are off center in ourselves, how can we be on center with others?
Self-love begins with the understanding that there are two types of love in the world. They are conditional love and unconditional love. Conditional love is egotistical love. Unconditional love is spiritual love. This type of love applies to others, but more importantly first applies to ourselves.

The first key question we each must ask ourselves is whether we love ourselves conditionally or unconditionally. Unconditional self-love is based on the understanding that we have worth and we are lovable because God created us. We are sons and daughters of God. God doesn’t make junk. Of course we have worth. If we don’t have worth then God doesn’t have worth. In other words, our worth and lovableness is a spiritual inheritance.

If you don’t believe this, then your ego steps in and says, “I have a different interpretation.” The ego says your worth and lovableness are based on meeting certain conditions. You have to have a certain kind of physical body. You have to go to college, have money, have a high paying job, be in a certain social status, be perfect, be spiritual, meditate, exercise, have a relationship, get good grades, be successful, and so on.

Now a lot of these things are very noble things to strive for and I recommend that you continue to do so. However, they have nothing to do with your self-love and self-worth.
Your self-love and self-worth come from who you are, not what you do. There are no conditions you have to meet. You can do everything in your life right or everything in your life wrong, and your worth and lovableness are the same. This cannot be emphasized more emphatically.

Self-Hugging (activerain.com)A good metaphor for understanding this is to imagine that you just had a baby. Does this baby have to do anything to have worth or value? Does it have to look a certain way? Isn’t there just an inherent value in the spark of life? Of course, your baby is of value and lovable. Don’t you continue to love that child as it grows older, even if it gets into trouble or fails the first grade spelling test?

The point I am now coming to is that there is a difference between the soul that is that child and the child’s behavior. The soul is always lovable and worthy. The behavior may not always be so. This is an extremely important discrimination to make with others and with yourself.

Taking this analogy a step farther, we are God’s children. God gave birth to us. Don’t you think He loves us as you would love your child? And don’t you think He continues to love us even though we make mistakes in the spiritual school called Earth life?
So the question is: At what age does a child lose its inherent value? We all seem to have it up to a certain age. It is quite ludicrous if you think about it. God loves us even though our behavior is often bad. Certainly He would prefer we got it together, but He loves us even if we don’t.

Another facet of self-love that has been brought out here is that we need to love ourselves as God loves us unconditionally! Jesus said, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” You will notice he didn’t say to love your neighbor and hate yourself.
You can determine where you are on your spiritual path by seeing how much you love your neighbor and how much you are loving yourself. We also need to learn to allow ourselves to feel God’s love. God’s love is like the sun. It is always shining. It is just a matter of whether we are going to give ourselves permission to receive it.

One of my favorite metaphors is that we are diamonds with mud on us. God created us so we are diamonds. Our faulty egotistical negative thinking has put mud on us. I am trying to get out the hose and wash off the illusions of faulty thinking and show you the “real you”. Your true identity is the Christ, the perfect creation of God. It is only the ego’s false, negative, pessimistic interpretation of you that makes you feel unworthy or unlovable.

images (2)Earth is a school. Our mistakes are not held against us. There are no such things as sins. There are only mistakes. Some believe that a sin is like some stain on our character that cannot be removed. This is absurd. Mistakes are positive. Did you fully hear and get that? Mistakes are positive! You don’t go out of your way to make them. But if they happen, you learn from them.

Every mistake is a blessing in disguise because there is always a golden nugget of wisdom to be learned. We learn the easy way or by the school of hard knocks. We are in this school to know ourselves and, hence, know God. God’s universe is governed by laws. There are physical laws, psychological laws and spiritual laws. We learn by making mistakes and then making adjustments.

The spiritual path up the mountain is five steps forward and four backward; seven forward then six backward. Don’t buy into the ego’s game of creating this impossible perfectionistic standard where mistakes are unacceptable. The spirit believes in striving for perfection but looks at mistakes as positive and unavoidable.

 

Life as a Dream

When we go to sleep at night and have a nightmare, we wake up and say to ourselves, “Boy, am I glad that was just a dream; it seemed so real while I was sleeping!” Well, that is what I am saying to you right now. Wake up from that bad dream or negative hypnosis you have been experiencing. Snap out of it!
Wake up! Let the mud fall off your diamond and see who you really are. You are the most valuable precious thing in all creation. Do you think God loves a rock or tree more than His own children who are made in His image?

Now comes the key to the whole process. Your thoughts create your reality. Your thoughts don’t create truth. They just create the reality of the people who are thinking them. In other words, if you think you are unworthy, then you are going to live in the nightmare and self created hell of your own thought creation.
You will live in your own bad dream and nightmare, even though it really isn’t true. You are what you think. The great need is to push these false unworthy and unlovable attitudes out of your mind and to start affirming the truth about yourself. By doing this you will re-record a new message into your subconscious tape recorder.

 

images (1)Selfish-Selfless Balance

Another aspect of self-love is what I call the selfish¬ selfless balance. This means there is a time to be selfish and there is a time to be selfless. To be selfless is to direct your energies to helping others. To be selfish is to take care of yourself. The spiritual path is the path of balance. We are not here to be martyrs. We must learn to be spiritually selfish.
Many very sincere and good spiritual people misunderstand this. I am not saying you shouldn’t help others. The greatest among you is the servant of all. I am just saying that you have to take care of yourself also. You are a part of God. You are a son or daughter of God.
Not to be spiritually selfish at times is to reject a part of God. If you are too selfless you will probably be resentful. The great lesson is that when you are selfish don’t feel guilty, and when you are selfless, give and don’t feel resentful. Be decisive in whatever decision you make.

 

Developing an Understanding of the Inner Child

The second major understanding in obtaining unconditional self-love deals with the understanding of the inner child. We all have a relationship to ourselves. I have called this, at times, a right relationship to self. What is this self I am talking about? Another name for this self is the inner child or inner self. In other words, we each parent ourselves.
I am suggesting that there are two ways of parenting ourselves or a real external child. There is a spiritual way of parenting or an egotistical way or parenting. The spiritual way of parenting is to be firm but loving (yin and yang balanced).

The wrong way to parent is to be too firm or too permissive and spoiling. A parent who is too firm is critical. When a parent is too critical this creates a child who is unworthy or deflated or who feels unloved. A too lenient parent creates a child who is spoiled or rebellious. A firm and loving parent creates a balanced, well adjusted child.
The first step in understanding this whole process is to look at how your parents raised you. Were they critical or firm and loving? It is very likely that you treat yourself the exact way your parents treated you. Now look at how you raised your children. And lastly look at how you are currently raising your own inner child

I want to make it clear that your inner child is a psychic reality. Learning to raise our inner child properly is one of the most important skills we can possibly learn. We will also be much better parents to our real children when we learn to parent ourselves properly.

 

What Do We Do If Our Parenting Skills Need Improvement?

When we are being too critical and judgmental with ourselves, what is really happening is “child abuse”. I am sure that, if you saw child abuse occurring at the market or a neighbor’s house you would step in and say something to stop it. What would you do if someone was abusing your children when they were younger? I am sure you would respond like a mother or father bear to protect your child. Well, that is what you need to start doing with your inner child.
The critical parent is like an evil baby sitter, with whom you have unwittingly left your child. Now you are returning (waking up) to reclaim your child as your own. Your child needs protection and you need to start giving your child the protection he or she needs.

What this means psychologically is that when the critical parent attitudes start whipping and beating your inner child, stop them! It doesn’t matter what you say. Put up your protective bubble and shield and say, “The buck stops here. I am not going to let my little child get beaten or abused any longer. I am going to protect him. I love my inner child and will not let my inner child continue to be hurt or beaten.”
When the over indulgent parent steps in and wants to be permissive, you do the same thing. You say, “No”. You say, “I am sick of this extremism. I don’t want to be too yin or too yang. I want balance. Get out!” You push the permissive parent thought out of your mind.

The second step after pushing the critical or permissive parent out of your mind is to affirm that you are going to be firm and loving toward yourself from now on. By continually doing this the critical or permissive parent will die from lack of attention and focus, and the firm and loving parent style will develop from attention and focus. It will take practice and constant vigilance. Just remember that if you choose to forget this, you are allowing child abuse to take place in your own mental home. Do you want to allow your inner child to be whipped and beaten or spoiled rotten?
What also must be considered here is that if improper parenting has taken place, then the inner child is going to be in need of healing just as a real child would be after being abused. The inner child who has had a critical parent is going to need a lot of extra love and nurturing. The inner child who has had a permissive spoiling parent is going to need “tough love”. A child who is acting out in real life needs to be sat on a little bit, not in a critical way but in a tough love way.

1-woman-hugging-self-lgnThe child has had more power than the parent. This needs to change. The parent is in charge, and the inner child needs to be told this. You may have to get real tough in the beginning to get the point across, just as you would with a real child. The inner child will get the message if he sees that you mean business. The inner child doesn’t really like being out of control anyway.

Your inner child desperately wants your unconditional love just as a real child does. Down deep, your inner child wants firmness and limits just as a real child does. If you are firm and loving then your inner and outer child will develop and internalize this to develop firmness, self control, personal power, and self-love within themselves.

 

Dialoguing

A very valuable and helpful tool in developing the proper relationships and psycho dynamics here is to dialogue with these different parts in your journal. Talk to your inner child and see how they are feeling. Then let the inner child talk back as you imagine they would respond. Dialogue with the critical and with the permissive parent, then with the firm and loving parent. Get more deeply in touch with how these dynamics are operating within you. You might even add your Higher Self into the dialogue and see what it has to add to the whole process.

There is a very interesting point about that last suggestion. The Huna teachings from Hawaii call the Higher Self the “utterly trustworthy parental self. I find that fascinating. In other words, we need to learn to parent ourselves as our Higher Selves parent us. Don’t our Higher Selves parent us with firmness and love, tough love?

 

1-woman-hugging-self-lgnVictory Log

This next suggestion is absolutely essential for fully stabilizing self-love and self-worth. So far we have talked about self-love on the essence level, the essence level being that we have worth and love because we are sons and daughters of God.

There is also a form level. In other words, we also need to feel good about what we are doing and creating in our lives. The critical parent spends all of its time being a perfectionist in a negative sense, looking for what we are doing wrong. In a given day you may be doing things ninety eight percent well, but the critical parent will spend the entire day focusing on the two percent you are doing wrong. This doesn’t make sense.
Proportionately you should be ninety eight percent happy that day. Is the glass of water half empty or half full? The purpose of the victory log is to look at what you are doing well, not at what you are doing poorly.

There are two steps to developing a proper victory log. The first step is to go over your entire life with a fine toothed comb and list all things that you have done well in your life. List all your fine attributes and qualities. List everything, no matter how minute. By doing this you will automatically feel good about yourself. Your perspective has changed. You are seeing things the way your Higher Self would have you see them.

The second step in the victory log is, every night before bed and every morning, add to the list and review the victories of that day and that week. By doing this you are giving yourself and your inner child strokes, “credit”, a positive reinforcement, love, psychological hugs and kisses. Tell the inner child how much you appreciate their cooperation and teamwork. You might tell your Higher Self the same thing. Together you are an unbeatable team.

 

What Do You Do When You Make Big Mistakes?

When you do make big mistakes, keep the critical parent out. It is okay to make observations about yourself or others. This is also called spiritual discernment or discrimination. It is called this because it is done in unconditional love. Whatever the mistake is, gain the golden nugget of wisdom from the experience and it then becomes a positive experience. If you truly learn from this “mistake” you will never have to go through a similar suffering ever again. Tell yourself that you are worthy and lovable even though you made a mistake or error in judgment. Tell yourself that mistakes are positive and unavoidable. Pick yourself up and get on with it.

A crucial part of self-love is forgiveness. You have a choice whether to subscribe to a philosophy of forgiveness or holding grudges. This applies to yourself also. Remember if you hold grudges, you are holding it against the inner child. Would you hold the same kind of grudge against your real child when he was little? If you want to be forgiven by God, don’t you think it is necessary to give the same energy back in return to your self and others?

 

What Happens To People Who Don’t Have Self-love?

If you don’t have unconditional self-love within yourself, then automatically you end up seeking it outside of self. Love is a survival need. Children have actually been known to die in institutions from lack of love.

The ideal is to give love to yourself and to allow yourself to receive God’s unchanging unconditional love. If you don’t do this then you end up seeking love, approval, acceptance from other people. This puts you in a compromised position. Other people become your computer programmers and the cause of your reality. Your worth is in their hands and control. Do you really want other people to hold this power and control over you? Not having self-love puts a hole in your protective bubble so that when people criticize you, you can’t protect yourself.

The ideal is to give yourself so much love, and to allow yourself to feel God’s full Love, that you go into life feeling totally powerful and totally loved before you meet another human being. You are ideally feeling full, whole and complete within yourself, and feeling your oneness with God.
You are so filled with love that you can give love to others even if they don’t love you. In essence, you want love; you don’t need love. You prefer love; you are not attached and addicted to getting love. The attitude of a more self actualized person is to form a right relationship to yourself and a right relationship to God first.

These are the two most important relationships in your life. You then can move into life as a whole, causal, masterful, independent person; a person who is in the world to give rather than needing to get, to fill an empty void within the self. This is the work of the spiritual path.

We actually have it all right now. The only problem is that we think we don’t. We live in the nightmare of self inflicted limitations that isn’t even real. We can get rid of these limitations any time we want by owning our power and taking command over our minds by the denial and affirming process. (See Self-love Affirmations and Visualization)

 

101Your True Self: The Causal Consciousness Self

Recognize that you have both a child and a parent self within you. It is important to realize, however, that even though everyone has to deal with these psychological dynamics, the real you is neither the parent nor the child. The real you is “consciousness” or “I” that is choosing what kind of parent and what kind of child dynamic you are creating within yourself.

The real you is the observer self, who is the controller, director, chooser and causer. The key to being the causer is the understanding of the need to be disidentified from the content of consciousness. You are not your thoughts, feelings, emotions, body, behavior, actions, personality, mistakes, successes, abilities, past, future, beliefs nor any of the content of consciousness.

You are the essence and not the form. You are the consciousness, not the creation. You can direct and control only that from which you are disidentified. That with which you, as the consciousness or “I” are identified, will be your master. In living in this world we must deal with form. This is why it is essential that you choose and cause the form of what kind of parent you are going to be to yourself.

Do a visualization, putting all the things you have thought were you (the content of consciousness) into a big metal pot that is now in the middle of your nature scene. Put everything in it until you are naked of all mental, emotional or physical form. All that is left is a center of pure awareness with nothing in it. Practice taking qualities, attitudes, feelings, beliefs, abilities, and non abilities and trying them on and then throwing them back in the pot. Practice identifying, then disidentifying. Practice being the controller, causer and creator of your life, like you would in a play or theater. Always remember what your real Self is and who and what you are.

The Source of this article is: http://iamuniversity.org/unconditional-self-love-and-the-inner-child/

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